Self Development
And Learn to Love Well I still remember growing up, often hearing from my parents, insults and judgments like, “You are a terrible kid.” “You’re good for nothing.” “You’re so stupid.” “I wish I never had you.” As a child, criticism and shame were my constant companions, guests that overstayed their welcome throughout my childhood […]
7 Powerful Strategies for Couples to Overcome Conflict & Rebuild Trust Let’s talk about something that hits close to home for so many of us – those moments when our relationships hit a rough patch. You know the ones I’m talking about, right? The silent dinners, the cold shoulders, the feeling that you and your […]
Why Gossip Kills Connection and How to Build Real Bonds In my 26 years as a relationship expert, I’ve witnessed countless attempts at connection. But recently, a scene in a local café crystallized a truth I’ve long observed: sometimes, our efforts to bond can actually push us further apart. Picture this: four new moms, babies […]
It’s Not What You Think Twenty-six years ago, I stood at the altar, blissfully unaware of the challenging yet beautiful odyssey that lay ahead. Today, as I celebrate my 26th wedding anniversary, I’m struck by how much we’ve grown – not just as a couple, but as individuals. When we first met, like many couples, we […]
And What We Can Do About It When we hear the word “patriarchy,” most of us think about how it impacts women. But have you ever paused to consider how this age-old system harms men and sabotages their relationships? I’ll be doing a two-part series on patriarchy. This week’s focus is on how patriarchy […]
But have it so wrong When I reflect back on my life, there are so many things that I thought I got right but was so wrong about. Like, when I was a teenager, I thought I was invincible and didn’t think about the consequences of my actions. So I did stupid things like pull […]
When I reflect on my life, I realize there were many things I thought I had right but was completely mistaken about. For instance, I used to believe that never saying “no” and always agreeing with others made me kind and well-liked. In reality, it often led to resentment and burnout because I neglected my […]
Face Fears for Deeper Connection Why is fear an essential part of change? As a relationship psychologist, I encounter this conundrum frequently. My clients, like many of us, wish for change in their relationship but balk at the process. We crave the outcome but want to bypass the inherent risks of getting there. Our fears […]
And it’s really not that hard Do you find yourself replaying the same painful scenarios in your relationships, feeling powerless to change the outcome? Are you and your partner stuck in a loop of misunderstandings and resentment that feels impossible to escape? These patterns can be deeply isolating, creating a barrier to the love and […]
And empower your relationship today Do you ever ruminate about conversations that you had with someone and wish you said things differently that would have led to a different outcome? Or perhaps you notice yourself retreating from speaking at all, in fear of being rejected or potentially escalating things into a fight? When we struggle […]
And step into a new you Does it feel like you’re constantly overlooked and undervalued in your relationships, whether with friends, family, or romantic partners? Perhaps you’re stuck in a frustrating loop where your voice seems to vanish into thin air, leaving you feeling helpless and diminished. For couples, maybe it’s the endless cycle of […]
So It Can Be Relaxing and Enjoyable The holiday season brings a feeling of overwhelm for many. As we gear up for the season, there are so many things to plan, organize, and prepare for. We multitask (beyond what we’ve already been multitasking) to fit in things like buying and wrapping gifts, baking cookies, attending […]
