Conflict Resolution
And How to Break Free From Its Bondage The Ripple Effect of Patriarchy on Relationships Internalized patriarchal norms don’t just harm individual men; they create relationship dynamics that can leave both partners feeling unfulfilled. Here are some ways: Poor Communication Skills: Communication breakdowns occur when men struggle to articulate their needs or fears. Often, feelings […]
And What We Can Do About It When we hear the word “patriarchy,” most of us think about how it impacts women. But have you ever paused to consider how this age-old system harms men and sabotages their relationships? I’ll be doing a two-part series on patriarchy. This week’s focus is on how patriarchy […]
From Bitter to Sweet Part 1: The Bitter I remember growing up dreading Mother’s Day. I had a tumultuous relationship with my mom and the last thing I wanted to do was to celebrate her. Every Hallmark card I read felt insincere. “Thanks for being a great mom.” “You’ve always been there for me.” or […]
Face Fears for Deeper Connection Why is fear an essential part of change? As a relationship psychologist, I encounter this conundrum frequently. My clients, like many of us, wish for change in their relationship but balk at the process. We crave the outcome but want to bypass the inherent risks of getting there. Our fears […]
And it’s really not that hard Do you find yourself replaying the same painful scenarios in your relationships, feeling powerless to change the outcome? Are you and your partner stuck in a loop of misunderstandings and resentment that feels impossible to escape? These patterns can be deeply isolating, creating a barrier to the love and […]
And empower your relationship today Do you ever ruminate about conversations that you had with someone and wish you said things differently that would have led to a different outcome? Or perhaps you notice yourself retreating from speaking at all, in fear of being rejected or potentially escalating things into a fight? When we struggle […]
And Bring it Back to Life How do you know if your marriage is dying a slow death? Most couples don’t realize it until it’s (almost) too late. By the time they seek out professional help (if they even do so), they’ve been struggling in their marriage for years or even decades. So, how do […]
And is it too late to save it? What’s the opposite of love? Is it hate? I don’t think so. You see, when I hear partners say, “I hate you”, it usually means something like, “I am so angry with you, I feel hurt by you, and disappointment with you because I love you and […]
So You Can Truly Start Anew All couples fight, even happy ones. Some successful couples even have big arguments. But most couples DO NOT recover from a fight. Here’s a typical scene. Partner A gets upset. They express this to Partner B. Partner B defends and explains themselves. Partner A then feels unheard and re-explains […]
And Instantly Feel Better Many of my clients come from families where they were regularly criticized or shamed for doing something that their parents deemed “wrong” or “bad”. Parents would often explain that criticizing or shaming was how they “taught” their children to do better in life and not make the same mistakes. Unfortunately, parents […]
And It’s Simple and Quick Are you tired of the endless cycles of fights between you and your partner where you end up feeling angry, deflated, and hopeless? Do you wish you could just stop fighting? Here’s one simple way to quickly defuse a situation before it escalates into a fight. Listen to Your Partner […]
In honour of my 25th wedding anniversary This week marks my 25th wedding anniversary (32 years together with my husband). It means that I’ve spent more years of my life with my husband than without. Weird. And the years have whizzed by. It’s a miracle we made it to 25 years, and I don’t take […]
