Attachment Styles
Attachment & Letting Go This week my husband and I said goodbye to our daughter. Our baby girl moved across the country for college. We’ve been dreading this day. As we stood in my daughter’s dorm room, surrounded by half-unpacked boxes and the nervous energy of new beginnings, we felt a tidal wave of emotions […]
Why Gossip Kills Connection and How to Build Real Bonds In my 26 years as a relationship expert, I’ve witnessed countless attempts at connection. But recently, a scene in a local café crystallized a truth I’ve long observed: sometimes, our efforts to bond can actually push us further apart. Picture this: four new moms, babies […]
It’s Not What You Think Twenty-six years ago, I stood at the altar, blissfully unaware of the challenging yet beautiful odyssey that lay ahead. Today, as I celebrate my 26th wedding anniversary, I’m struck by how much we’ve grown – not just as a couple, but as individuals. When we first met, like many couples, we […]
And How to Break Free From Its Bondage The Ripple Effect of Patriarchy on Relationships Internalized patriarchal norms don’t just harm individual men; they create relationship dynamics that can leave both partners feeling unfulfilled. Here are some ways: Poor Communication Skills: Communication breakdowns occur when men struggle to articulate their needs or fears. Often, feelings […]
Face Fears for Deeper Connection Why is fear an essential part of change? As a relationship psychologist, I encounter this conundrum frequently. My clients, like many of us, wish for change in their relationship but balk at the process. We crave the outcome but want to bypass the inherent risks of getting there. Our fears […]
So It Can Be Relaxing and Enjoyable The holiday season brings a feeling of overwhelm for many. As we gear up for the season, there are so many things to plan, organize, and prepare for. We multitask (beyond what we’ve already been multitasking) to fit in things like buying and wrapping gifts, baking cookies, attending […]
And how to avoid it Most of us believe that the person we marry will be the “right one”. This is why we chose them. They make us happy, and we want this happy feeling to become permanent, so we marry them. Unfortunately, that’s not how it usually goes. Most of us will actually end […]
5 Little Known Facts about Attachment Attachment is the buzz these days. Everyone seems to be an expert on the subject, teaching people about attachment styles and giving advice on how to develop healthier attachment. Some of the information is sound, but often, it is mixed with pop psychology trends, hearsay, and misinformation. Such misunderstandings […]
Enhance Your Well-Being and Quality of Life So, what’s the big deal about secure attachment? “Attachment” has become a buzz word and everyone’s trying to figure out what kind of attachment they have. In general, humans have an innate need for secure attachment. That is, we have a need for consistent and responsive caregiving to […]
Balancing Independence and Emotional Connection Do you love your partner but can’t truly feel close to them? Do you go through the motions in your relationship because you’re supposed to do certain things and not because you want to? Do you prefer to show love with acts of service rather than quality time or expressing […]
Recognizing and Overcoming Hypersensitivity Has anyone ever told you that you’re too sensitive? Or that you overthink things? Do you second guess your interactions with others, and afterwards, replay the scene over and over again with different versions of what you could have done differently? Do you overexplain to make sure people don’t misunderstand you […]
(This is part 5 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my this page) As human beings, we are wired for connection, yet not all connections are created equal. Some connections are nurturing and fulfilling, while others can be toxic and damaging. The quality of your […]
