Relationship Tips

And how it will destroy your life All of us have complained before. It’s human nature to do so from time to time when we feel wronged. But for some of us, complaining has become an addiction. How do you know if you’re addicted to complaining? One clue is that your first automatic reaction is […]

Don’t Singlehandedly Kill Your Relationship “We bicker all the time, she’s so critical of me and I don’t feel like I am doing anything right. What should I do?” – Anthony, Boston Is your relationship not what it used to be? Over time, have you and your partner replaced locking loving gazes with looks of […]

And We Do It a Lot Most of you may think that you are an honest person. But research shows that the average adult lies 1 to 2 times a day and is lied to 10 to 200 times a day. The ironic thing is, none of us want to be lied to, but all […]

And It’s Simple and Quick Are you tired of the endless cycles of fights between you and your partner where you end up feeling angry, deflated, and hopeless? Do you wish you could just stop fighting? Here’s one simple way to quickly defuse a situation before it escalates into a fight. Listen to Your Partner […]

And What You Can Do About It Do your negative thoughts create self-fulfilling prophecies in your relationship? Do you often think of the worst-case scenario that causes unnecessary worry? You are not alone in this. The human brain is designed to look out for danger and protect itself. Negative thinking is our default setting. Because […]

Sure, but here’s what keeps them healthy. Many people believe that healthy relationships don’t have problems. The truth is, all relationships have problems because we are all imperfect humans. Moreover, all relationships go through periods of harmony and disharmony. But the difference between happy and healthy couples is this. They know the secret of going […]

Recognizing and Overcoming Hypersensitivity Has anyone ever told you that you’re too sensitive? Or that you overthink things? Do you second guess your interactions with others, and afterwards, replay the scene over and over again with different versions of what you could have done differently? Do you overexplain to make sure people don’t misunderstand you […]

How Childhood Emotional Neglect Influences Adult Attachment Styles Were you abused in childhood and don’t even know it? Most of us are aware of physical abuse, sexual abuse, and even verbal abuse. But the most “neglected” type of abuse is emotional neglect. It is defined as a relationship pattern in which a child’s emotional needs […]

You might and not even know it. Do you have a loved one (e.g., partner, parent, friend, family member) who does or says things to you that you don’t like, but you don’t do anything about it?  Do you excuse their poor behaviour by saying things like,  “Sometimes you have to look beyond the behaviour […]

(This is part 3 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my website) As human beings, we are wired for connection. From the moment we are born, we crave and seek out relationships with others. However, for some of us, the relationships we form can be […]

As we ring in the new year and say goodbye to the previous one, I am reminded of the beginning and the end of the life cycle and how they are mirror images of one another. We come into this world crying, laying in a cradle, completely dependent on others for our basic needs, and […]

This is the time of year when many of us make new year’s resolutions, and improving our relationships is often at the top of the list. Whether it’s with your partner, children, parents, friends, or even yourself, it’s important to have a clear plan in place to make sure you follow through and succeed with […]