Marriage
This topic always lands me in hot water, but frankly, I don’t care – because it’s one of the most common issues couples come to me for, especially during the holidays. I’m talking about the mental load, that invisible backpack of responsibilities that’s often silently crushing the holiday spirit of one partner while the other […]
Is It Possible? There’s a question that I keep getting asked over the decades when helping couples. It is one of the most challenging and loaded questions. It’s also a question that is tender to me because it reminds me of one of the main reasons why my parents’ marriage failed… How do I move […]
Transforming Past Hurts Into Secure Connections Life has a funny way of teaching us lessons, sometimes through the most unexpected – and occasionally unpleasant – experiences. Here’s mine… Believe it or not, I’ve had the dubious honour of being pooped on my head by a bird twice in my lifetime. Once this week, and once […]
And transform your bonds There’s a saying in couples therapy that “we marry our unfinished business.” It is absolutely true. In my 26 years of working with couples, I have seen this repeatedly, without exception. What do I mean by this? I see couples who repeat relationship patterns, communication challenges, and conflict styles. The interesting […]
There’s a saying in couples therapy that “we marry our unfinished business.” It is absolutely true. In my 26 years of working with couples, I have seen this repeatedly, without exception. What do I mean by this? I see couples who repeat relationship patterns, communication challenges, and conflict styles. The interesting thing is, this is […]
Why Gossip Kills Connection and How to Build Real Bonds In my 26 years as a relationship expert, I’ve witnessed countless attempts at connection. But recently, a scene in a local café crystallized a truth I’ve long observed: sometimes, our efforts to bond can actually push us further apart. Picture this: four new moms, babies […]
How Shared Activities Can Revitalize Your Relationship Pickleball has emerged as one of the fastest-growing sports in North America. According to Association of Pickleball Professionals (APP), pickleball participation grew by 223.5% from 2020 to 2023, with 48.3 million players in the United States alone. While pickleball appeals to all age groups, it’s particularly popular among […]
And Bring it Back to Life How do you know if your marriage is dying a slow death? Most couples don’t realize it until it’s (almost) too late. By the time they seek out professional help (if they even do so), they’ve been struggling in their marriage for years or even decades. So, how do […]
And blessing to you Today is my birthday. It’s a funny thing that the older I get, the less desire I have to celebrate, but the more I long to contemplate. I contemplate how there are more years behind me than before me, and how to live my best life for the remaining years. I […]
Why sex is good for you In the hustle and bustle of modern life, countless couples find themselves tangled in a web of responsibilities, leaving little time or energy for sexual intimacy that once defined their relationship. What was once a source of passion, desire, and excitement has now become a mere afterthought, or worse, […]
In honour of my 25th wedding anniversary This week marks my 25th wedding anniversary (32 years together with my husband). It means that I’ve spent more years of my life with my husband than without. Weird. And the years have whizzed by. It’s a miracle we made it to 25 years, and I don’t take […]
Balancing Independence and Emotional Connection Do you love your partner but can’t truly feel close to them? Do you go through the motions in your relationship because you’re supposed to do certain things and not because you want to? Do you prefer to show love with acts of service rather than quality time or expressing […]
