Marriage
How Shared Activities Can Revitalize Your Relationship Pickleball has emerged as one of the fastest-growing sports in North America. According to Association of Pickleball Professionals (APP), pickleball participation grew by 223.5% from 2020 to 2023, with 48.3 million players in the United States alone. While pickleball appeals to all age groups, it’s particularly popular among […]
And Bring it Back to Life How do you know if your marriage is dying a slow death? Most couples don’t realize it until it’s (almost) too late. By the time they seek out professional help (if they even do so), they’ve been struggling in their marriage for years or even decades. So, how do […]
And blessing to you Today is my birthday. It’s a funny thing that the older I get, the less desire I have to celebrate, but the more I long to contemplate. I contemplate how there are more years behind me than before me, and how to live my best life for the remaining years. I […]
Why sex is good for you In the hustle and bustle of modern life, countless couples find themselves tangled in a web of responsibilities, leaving little time or energy for sexual intimacy that once defined their relationship. What was once a source of passion, desire, and excitement has now become a mere afterthought, or worse, […]
In honour of my 25th wedding anniversary This week marks my 25th wedding anniversary (32 years together with my husband). It means that I’ve spent more years of my life with my husband than without. Weird. And the years have whizzed by. It’s a miracle we made it to 25 years, and I don’t take […]
Balancing Independence and Emotional Connection Do you love your partner but can’t truly feel close to them? Do you go through the motions in your relationship because you’re supposed to do certain things and not because you want to? Do you prefer to show love with acts of service rather than quality time or expressing […]
Have you ever been disappointed in your relationships? Although relationships are an essential part of our lives, whether they are with our family, friends, colleagues, or romantic partners, sooner or later they will be met with disappointment. This is just part of doing relationships. As humans, we all make mistakes and (un)intentionally hurt each other. […]
I’ve been thinking about scars this week. Two years ago on April 1, in the height of the pandemic I had hip replacement surgery. I woke up with 50 staples holding the two sides of my hip together. At first, nobody knew about my surgery, except for my “bubble”. It was the perfect time to […]
I admit, about 30 years ago, I drank the Kool-Aid and got sucked into the commercialization of Valentine’s Day… buying gifts, going to dinner at fancy restaurants, and receiving overpriced flowers. But a few years into my relationship with my now husband, we decided to be “anti-Valentine’s Day”. Note, he might have agreed to this […]
Why do some couples make it long-term and others don’t? 2023 marks the 32nd year that my husband and I have been together (dated for 7 years, married for 25 years). As I reflect over the decades, I can see the evolution of our relationship from its infancy to present day. It seemed like we […]
“How do I find the ‘right one’?” I often get asked this question from people who are single, dating, divorced, had a string of unsuccessful relationships, considering engagement, or contemplating re-marriage. So, what is the best relationship advice I can give to someone who’s trying to find the right partner and create a happy, healthy, […]
Why do we downplay childhood adversities? I often hear clients talk about very painful memories from their childhood. Things like, getting criticized, shamed, or hit by their parent, or being constantly bullied at school. Then the very next line is, “but that happens to everyone” or “that was the past and I’m over it now”, […]
