Marriage
Have you ever been disappointed in your relationships? Although relationships are an essential part of our lives, whether they are with our family, friends, colleagues, or romantic partners, sooner or later they will be met with disappointment. This is just part of doing relationships. As humans, we all make mistakes and (un)intentionally hurt each other. […]
I’ve been thinking about scars this week. Two years ago on April 1, in the height of the pandemic I had hip replacement surgery. I woke up with 50 staples holding the two sides of my hip together. At first, nobody knew about my surgery, except for my “bubble”. It was the perfect time to […]
I admit, about 30 years ago, I drank the Kool-Aid and got sucked into the commercialization of Valentine’s Day… buying gifts, going to dinner at fancy restaurants, and receiving overpriced flowers. But a few years into my relationship with my now husband, we decided to be “anti-Valentine’s Day”. Note, he might have agreed to this […]
Why do some couples make it long-term and others don’t? 2023 marks the 32nd year that my husband and I have been together (dated for 7 years, married for 25 years). As I reflect over the decades, I can see the evolution of our relationship from its infancy to present day. It seemed like we […]
“How do I find the ‘right one’?” I often get asked this question from people who are single, dating, divorced, had a string of unsuccessful relationships, considering engagement, or contemplating re-marriage. So, what is the best relationship advice I can give to someone who’s trying to find the right partner and create a happy, healthy, […]
Why do we downplay childhood adversities? I often hear clients talk about very painful memories from their childhood. Things like, getting criticized, shamed, or hit by their parent, or being constantly bullied at school. Then the very next line is, “but that happens to everyone” or “that was the past and I’m over it now”, […]
Over two weeks ago, we learned the sad news about the passing of Stephen “tWitch” Boss, the DJ of the Ellen DeGeneres Show. He allegedly took his own life. He was 40 years old and leaves behind his wife and three children. I reflect back on all the famous people who have taken their own […]
Today is American Thanksgiving. It is a time when many of you pause, reflect, and take note of what you are grateful for. Although I’m Canadian (from Vancouver, Canada), I’m celebrating alongside my American friends today…literally. I’ve just arrived in Denver, Colorado. I’m here with my husband for our friend, Tim’s wedding on the weekend. […]
Couples counselling may not be for everyone. But it can be helpful for most couples, even if you are not always fighting. But first, let me note what may be contraindicative to effective couples work: When one or both partners are actively having an affair and have no plans to stop.When one or both partners […]
A few weeks ago a dear friend of mine whom I had known for over 30 years suddenly passed away in a scuba diving accident. She was 45 years old. She leaves behind the love of her life and three children. There are no words for this tragic loss. I went to visit this family […]
