Attachment Styles
Enhance Your Well-Being and Quality of Life So, what’s the big deal about secure attachment? “Attachment” has become a buzz word and everyone’s trying to figure out what kind of attachment they have. In general, humans have an innate need for secure attachment. That is, we have a need for consistent and responsive caregiving to […]
Balancing Independence and Emotional Connection Do you love your partner but can’t truly feel close to them? Do you go through the motions in your relationship because you’re supposed to do certain things and not because you want to? Do you prefer to show love with acts of service rather than quality time or expressing […]
Recognizing and Overcoming Hypersensitivity Has anyone ever told you that you’re too sensitive? Or that you overthink things? Do you second guess your interactions with others, and afterwards, replay the scene over and over again with different versions of what you could have done differently? Do you overexplain to make sure people don’t misunderstand you […]
How Childhood Emotional Neglect Influences Adult Attachment Styles Were you abused in childhood and don’t even know it? Most of us are aware of physical abuse, sexual abuse, and even verbal abuse. But the most “neglected” type of abuse is emotional neglect. It is defined as a relationship pattern in which a child’s emotional needs […]
As human beings, we are constantly shaped and influenced by our environment, experiences, and relationships. However, some of us carry the heavy burden of intergenerational trauma, passed down through generations like a dark inheritance. It can manifest in different ways, affecting our mental and emotional health, relationships, and overall well-being. But there is hope. You […]
Have you ever felt like there’s something standing in the way of true intimacy with your partner? Something that you just can’t seem to shake, no matter how hard you try? It’s possible that intergenerational trauma is to blame. As a therapist and relationship expert, I’ve seen firsthand how past experiences can negatively impact our […]
(This is part 5 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my this page) As human beings, we are wired for connection, yet not all connections are created equal. Some connections are nurturing and fulfilling, while others can be toxic and damaging. The quality of your […]
(This is part 4 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them here in the blog area.) Your relationships are one of the most important aspects of your life. They give you a sense of purpose, belonging, and love. However, what happens when the very thing you need […]
(This is part 3 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my website) As human beings, we are wired for connection. From the moment we are born, we crave and seek out relationships with others. However, for some of us, the relationships we form can be […]
(This is part 2 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my website) Are you constantly worried about losing the people you love? Do you crave reassurance and validation in your relationships? If so, you may have an anxious attachment style. Anxious attachment style is characterized […]
This may have something to do with your childhood attachment. Your attachment style describes the way you relate to others in the context of intimate relationships, which is heavily influenced by the emotional bond you had with your primary caregiver(s). There are four known attachments styles. These styles set the template for how you […]
Why do we downplay childhood adversities? I often hear clients talk about very painful memories from their childhood. Things like, getting criticized, shamed, or hit by their parent, or being constantly bullied at school. Then the very next line is, “but that happens to everyone” or “that was the past and I’m over it now”, […]
