Communication
And What You Can Do About It Do your negative thoughts create self-fulfilling prophecies in your relationship? Do you often think of the worst-case scenario that causes unnecessary worry? You are not alone in this. The human brain is designed to look out for danger and protect itself. Negative thinking is our default setting. Because […]
In honour of my 25th wedding anniversary This week marks my 25th wedding anniversary (32 years together with my husband). It means that I’ve spent more years of my life with my husband than without. Weird. And the years have whizzed by. It’s a miracle we made it to 25 years, and I don’t take […]
Sure, but here’s what keeps them healthy. Many people believe that healthy relationships don’t have problems. The truth is, all relationships have problems because we are all imperfect humans. Moreover, all relationships go through periods of harmony and disharmony. But the difference between happy and healthy couples is this. They know the secret of going […]
How to have a healthy relationship Is there hope for change if you’re in an unhealthy relationship? You may be at the end of your rope. You’ve tried talking things out with your partner, reading self-help books on relationships, and even attending counselling, but only to get the same result…the status quo. Most people try […]
Balancing Independence and Emotional Connection Do you love your partner but can’t truly feel close to them? Do you go through the motions in your relationship because you’re supposed to do certain things and not because you want to? Do you prefer to show love with acts of service rather than quality time or expressing […]
How Childhood Emotional Neglect Influences Adult Attachment Styles Were you abused in childhood and don’t even know it? Most of us are aware of physical abuse, sexual abuse, and even verbal abuse. But the most “neglected” type of abuse is emotional neglect. It is defined as a relationship pattern in which a child’s emotional needs […]
(This is part 3 of 5 in the Attachment Series. If you missed the others, you could find them on my website) As human beings, we are wired for connection. From the moment we are born, we crave and seek out relationships with others. However, for some of us, the relationships we form can be […]
Most people don’t like arguments. I don’t blame them. I didn’t like them either. I grew up watching my parents fight like cats and dogs, without ever seeing them resolve their conflict. This experience made me allergic to arguments. On top of that, I learned to shut up and get out of the way, as […]
Why do some couples make it long-term and others don’t? 2023 marks the 32nd year that my husband and I have been together (dated for 7 years, married for 25 years). As I reflect over the decades, I can see the evolution of our relationship from its infancy to present day. It seemed like we […]
This is the time of year when many of us make new year’s resolutions, and improving our relationships is often at the top of the list. Whether it’s with your partner, children, parents, friends, or even yourself, it’s important to have a clear plan in place to make sure you follow through and succeed with […]
Do your negative thoughts create self-fulfilling prophecies in your relationship? Do you often think of the worst-case scenario that causes unnecessary worry? You are not alone in this. The human brain is designed to look out for danger and protect itself. Negative thinking is our default setting. Because of this evolutionary design, our negativity bias […]
Affairs is a topic that I often deal with in therapy. It is one of the hardest topics to tackle and takes a lot of sensitivity and care to navigate. Even defining an affair is difficult. Some believe it must involve sex to be an affair, whereas others think viewing porn (with masturbation) is a […]
