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I create deep relationship transformation for high-achieving couples who are successful at everything except their marriage—so they can stop the same fight on repeat, feel truly seen and understood, and go from roommates back to lovers.
My bicultural background as a Chinese Canadian is my superpower.
I've built a methodology that blends Eastern collectivist values with Western clinical psychology, and I deeply understand the unique pressures facing Asian professionals—the weight of unspoken expectations and the clash between individualism and filial duty.
Here's what I've discovered:
When we heal our childhood wounds and stop repeating learned patterns, we don't just change our marriage. We change how we parent, how we lead, how we show up in the world. We leave a different legacy.
I've been happily married for 27 years and have three kids who I consider close friends. We've created the kind of family I wished for growing up—not because we're special, but because we did the work.
That's what I teach: deep, permanent transformation that rewires your nervous system, heals your attachment wounds, and gives you the tools to create the relationships you actually want.
My Approach:
I Work at the Root, Not the Surface
Most relationship advice treats symptoms. I help you heal the childhood wounds causing your patterns—so the change is permanent, not temporary.
I Blend East and West
My methodology integrates Eastern collectivist wisdom with Western clinical psychology, offering a holistic approach that honors both individual growth and relational harmony.
I'm Direct, Warm, and All In
Clients say they love my style: I'm straightforward, I work fast, but go deep. What I do in 1 session is what others do in 5. You always know I'm for you. I keep it real, and I don't waste your time on things that don't work because I know you’re busy people.
I Specialize in 'Impossible' Cases
I'm known for turning around marriages on the brink of divorce. Couples come to me after seeing 4-5 other therapists with limited success—and finally experience breakthrough.
I Focus on Legacy, Not Just Marriage
When you heal yourself and your relationship, the ripple effect is massive. You change how you parent, how you lead at work, how you show up in every relationship.
I Only Use What Works
In 27 years of practice with over 30,000 client hours, I've gathered the most effective, evidence-based strategies, proven to get you real results. No fluff. Just the good stuff that works.
I Don’t Work With Everyone
As my services are in high demand and I have a long waitlist, I only work with people who are ready to commit to doing the work, and motivated to take action and make positive changes.
Specialties:
- Attachment wounds and insecure attachment patterns
- Intergenerational trauma and family of origin work
- High-conflict couples and chronic fighting cycles
- Emotional disconnection and lost intimacy
- Complex trauma and childhood wounds
- Cultural identity conflicts (Asian clients specialty)
- Executive and high-achiever relationship dynamics
- Affairs, betrayal, and rebuilding trust
- Couples on the brink of divorce
Education
- Doctor in Clinical Psychology
- Master in Marriage and Family Therapy
Credentials
- Registered Psychologist, British Columbia
- 27 years and over 35,000 hours of clinical experience with individuals, couples, and families
- Professor of Counseling Psychology, University of British Columbia & Trinity Western University
- Advanced training in family & marriage counseling, attachment, trauma, and neuropsychology
- Published author: The Connected Couple: 7 Secrets to Transforming Your Relationship (award-winning, Amazon bestseller)
- Trainer and supervisor to therapists and graduate students
- Speaker on relationships, attachment, and intergenerational healing
You've tried figuring this out alone. Let's try something different.
The couples who get the best results?
They stop waiting for their relationship to magically improve and they invest in proven guidance.
Whether you're ready for private sessions, group support, or an intensive retreat—there's a path forward that fits where you are right now.
